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Fall In-love With Yourself This Valentine’s Day With These Great Self-Love Routines

Just because you’re alone, doesn’t mean you have to be lonely.

Self-love and self-care is all about the art of appreciating yourself.

Don’t let Valentine’s day fool you into thinking you NEED to be baed’ and locked-down. If you’re single that’s ok too. You’re good enough all by yourself.

You know What’s really awesome…Hanging out with your own thoughts!!! But be very aware of them. If they’re negative, it’s time to change them. Consciously.

You being single is the perfect time for you to figure out:

  • What YOU truly want.
  • What makes you happy
  • What you want out of life
  • The kind of partner you would like to be
  • The kind of partner you would like to have.
  • Build a healthy lifestyle
  • Practice Self-love.

As couples float down rose delivered bouquets at the office. Fancy dinners, at fancy restaurants. Butterflies and goodnight kisses. Don’t think for a moment you don’t deserve that…because you do. But you do not need to wait for a significant other to be happy, take care of yourself right now.

Here are some self-love routines that will make you fall in-love with yourself.

Forgive yourself

I’m the kind of person that easily forgives other people and yet I’m hardest and unforgiving of myself. I beat myself myself up over and over again.

If you’re like me, it’s time we ditched the guilt. It’s time we treated ourselves like we treat others. We are human. We mess up. Let’s accept the flaws and imperfections. The best we can do is learn from our mistakes and move on.

Living in the misery of our mistakes is toxic and unloving.


Compliment yourself

It is with great shame that I admit that in the past I’ve had occasions where I was verbally abusive towards myself. I have said things to myself that I would not stand for had someone else said them to me.

Until one day I realised I had no right to speak to myself in that way. Neither do you.

Contrary to what you might believe. You are an amazing human being. You are deserving of all the goodness this lifetime has to offer.

So do me a favour, give yourself a compliment each Morning.

Pat yourself on the back when you do a great job.

Give yourself credit for handling this ‘life thing’. You haven’t given up, you must be doing something right.

Here are some of my favourite affirmations I’d like for us to try.

  • Everything will work out for me.
  • I am a winner.
  • I am worthy of love and joy.
  • The tools I need to succeed are in my possession.
  • I am enough.
  • I am beautiful.

Take yourself out on a date.

Most of my favourite experiences I’ve had, are when I did things alone. Like when I travelled to Malaysia alone. My itinerary was made up of all the things that I wanted to do.  I saw the sites I wanted to see, when I wanted to see them. I was free to be myself in each moment without worrying about someone else’s needs or feelings.

So yes, travel alone.

Yes, Go to the movies alone.

Yes, Go to dinner alone. “Table for one please”.

Yes, buy yourself flowers and own it! Don’t pretend they came from some phantom crush. They come from YOU because you’re crushing on yourself.

There is nothing more empowering than being in your own company.

With intention, sit with yourself and enjoy your own company.


In essence, be your own emotional support system.

Be kinder to yourself.

Be happy with yourself.

Smile to yourself.

Spoil yourself.

And by God, LOVE Yourself.



~ Sibongile “Sibo” Tshabalala